(#158) You’re Being Watched… and That’s a Good Thing

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People are watching you. And that's a good thing. Welcome back to Kyle Talks, where I'm Kyle and we talk. Yo, yo, yo, what it do be doing these streets man this I'm feeling good. I'm so excited to talk to you guys right now. How's it going? I'm going to chill out a little bit. How's it going? How you guys doing? Welcome back to Kyle talks where I'm Kyle. And we talk and I am so excited to have you guys on today. It is a beautiful Saturday. I'm recording this on a Wednesday before the Saturday so you know. Play with me here, rock with me. Hopefully this podcast will help you get better. And if you're having a great day, well, it's about to get even greater, greater. Anyways, I'm in a good mood. Praise God. Guys, welcome back to Kyle Talks from Kyle and We Talk. And this show is if this is your first time here, this is a show where we're making conversation cool again. We're making talking to people cool again. So I mean, talking to people who don't look like you, don't vote like you, don't pray like you, don't eat like you, don't dress like you and having really good conversation. and hearing stories and understanding. We are making having a conversation cool again. And out of those conversations, we've heard some great stories of regular everyday people you'd see walking past you in the mall on the street. And they've done cool things like lose 500 pounds, be a voice actor for Disney, have active cancer research. They're like solving cancer and you would never even know. These are the conversations that we're missing out on. And we just have to talk to people. We're making it cool. So if this is your first time here and that sounds great to you, it'll challenge you a little bit. It's not going to be, even for myself, it'll challenge you, but it'll be so rewarding. You'll genuinely be a better person. Come on into the Kotok Studio at Sunny in the sunny, beautiful Los Angeles, California. Please, I got LaCroix. I got White Claws on tap. I like Pamplemousse, but we got whatever you're looking for. And if you've been here multiple times, Thank you so much. Come back in. We just got a new stock of LaCroix's, so they're all set for you. And I would love to have you guys. Thank you guys for tuning in. As well, thank you guys for all the love on that episode. I've been growing more. It feels like I'm starting to get my feet. I don't know, my feet under me. Me and Rio, unofficial producer Rio, who this show cannot exist without him. We were talking over stats or looking over things and talking about the podcast and episodes and where to go, as we usually do. Like, we do that multiple times a week. And we were talking about some feedback because I'm starting to get more feedback. It's not like... In droves, you know, it's not like hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people sending feedback. But it's cool. I'm getting feedback. People are emailing, DMing me, texting me for those who I know, giving me their feedback. And me and Rio are talking about it. He was like, well, people like or there's or don't like what you're saying. You kind of feel like a real podcaster. I guess we're building a community and I am super happy about that. Yeah. Thank you guys for all the love. We're building this community. We're small right now, but we're mighty. And I'm really excited for what we're building over here at Kyle Talks. It's really good. And on feedback of people not liking what I say, someone reached out to me and said that my love for LaCroix and seltzer means I have less testosterone in my body and super forced. What? Just say you don't like water a little, bro. Just say that. I'll enjoy my LaCroix Zoe calories and my White Claws, which are like 80, 100 calories. You know what? Look, I love you. Thank you for thinking different than me. But the LaCroix hate is so forced. It's just water. It's just water. Why do people hate it? I don't know. I mean, hey, look, I appreciate you. Thank you for listening. But hating on LaCroix feels so forced. I don't know. Is that just me? Anyways. Thank you guys so much for the love and for the continued growth of the podcast. If you feel like, please leave a review. That will help us grow even more and bring more people. So when you leave a review, what happens is it recommends it to other people. Like, hey, a lot of people like this content or whatever. Maybe Kyle Talks. Maybe you might like it and it recommends it to more people so they can get listening, get downloaded, things like that. So if you like what we stand for and our goal is here at Kyle Talks, Please leave a review, maybe even share it on Twitter, X, whatever it is, Instagram. Leave a leave a review and share it. I would love for the communities to grow. And we're so in the beginning stages of finally getting like growing a community. Your like and your share and your review can really do a lot for getting the podcast out there. So I appreciate it. Thank you guys so much. With that, that's all my e-begging. No real yap today. I'm just in a good mood and I'm really excited to get into our question of the day and our boss question and our topic. You've already read the title. You know what it's about. I haven't even talked about it yet and you already know what I'm going to talk about. So let's jump into the boss segment. If this is your first time here, let me explain to you what this is. If you've been here before, you know what this is. So don't ruin it. Let me tell them. I know you're excited. Let me tell them. So our boss segment is before opening show. So before I open the show and go to a main topic, there's a chance for you to send a question into KyleTalksPodcast at gmail.com and we just have a conversation. It could be about literally anything. It could be about what's going on in your life or some things that you're struggling with. Maybe you've had a huge W and I want to sit and celebrate for you. I'm a podcast about having conversation. And if I didn't have a part where I had a conversation with everyone as I possibly could and with the listeners, I would be a sham, a charlatan, a scammer. This is an opportunity for us to have a conversation. It's not I don't claim I'm 28 years young. I don't know what I don't know. I'm almost 30. I don't know what I don't know. I just graduated college three years ago. Like I'm learning a lot. So these questions are more from like, hey, just maybe you don't have a bro to talk to. This is our chance to have a conversation. This isn't like, oh, let's figure something out or I have the answers. Let me tell you the answer. This is just for us to have a conversation as friends, as bros. Maybe bros who disagree on everything. It's just an opportunity for us to have a conversation. That's it. So if you'd like to send in your question for a chance for it to be read for a boss segment, go ahead and send those questions into KyleTalksPodcast at gmail.com and put boss, B-O-S-S in the subject line. So it's a little bit easier for me to find. Today's question, we're going to jump right into it. It's short and sweet. Hey, Kyle Hunt. Hey, Unofficial Producer Real. Real quick, why does every email start with that? Hey, I mean, I like it, but it's like literally every email started with that, which is kind of insane. Kind of insane. But let's get to you. Like I said, short and sweet. Hey, Kyle. Hey, unofficial producer. Rio. How do I stop getting defensive when someone challenged my beliefs or opinions? Really like what you've been saying lately. And I don't know if I'm ready to open myself up yet, but I know I am ready to grow and I don't want to shut down. That's it. W question. Thank you for sending that in. Is it? If you're new to the podcast or if you've been here for a while, you know we're really making like a full court press. That's a basketball innuendo. That's a basketball expression, full court press. We've been really pressing on how to have conversations lately. And that's the whole point of the podcast. How to talk to people, how to listen to people, even who don't agree. And if you haven't listened to episode 157, go check that out where we talk about Having conversations with people. So I think this is timely and it's really good. This came in literally after that. So someone wants to talk about it. How do you stop being defensive when someone challenges your beliefs or opinions? I don't know. Like I'm 28. For those who don't know or do know, I'm a Christian as well. I believe Jesus is God. He died on the cross and three days later he arose. I mean, he died for my sins specifically and everyone's sins. But like, yeah, I believe I'm a sinner and Jesus washed that away. I don't know. I have two things. And maybe you guys can like, so this is a conversation. I don't know everything. I don't have the answer to everything. So let me know what you guys think. But I think now this can be more challenging depending on the belief or opinion. But I think people really identify themselves closely with with whatever belief or opinion you have, and that automatically represents you. And I think that's where a lot of defensiveness comes from. I could be wrong on that. There's probably a lot of different reasons, to be honest, but I think in my experience, again, 28, I haven't had a lot of it, but I think that most of the defensiveness comes from that. What do I mean? We identify with a belief opinion or we or we have a hard time like like yeah people aren't attacking me they're attacking the idea so for example Christianity it's very personal right very personal and I do identify with Christianity because that's like Jesus you know the whole thing he lives in me and all that when someone challenges that idea at least this is what I'm thinking in my mind maybe this might be pertinent to you They're not attacking me or maybe they are. Who cares, honestly, if they are. But if they're attacking, they're mainly attacking this idea that I described to you of Christianity. Like, oh, I've heard common things. How can you know Jesus rose from the dead? If this person did exist, Jesus, if he did exist in a whole universe, he cares about you. Like, why would he care about you if you masturbated or something? Or why does like the penalty for sin? Things like that. And so how I'm thinking about that is sometimes people can be malicious. You know, you know what that looks like when someone's trying to be malicious and they're not trying to have a genuine conversation. Other times people have genuine, like, hey, those are good questions to ask. So if I'm me in that situation, I would think like, okay, they're attacking me. The base of my beliefs. Yes, they are my beliefs, but they're attacking those beliefs. So how can we have a thoughtful and productive? I'll say it again. How can we have a thoughtful, productive conversation about those beliefs? Whatever it may be. I use religion for this one, but it could be political or literally anything you pick. So, yeah, I think that's how you stop getting defensive. I mean, I could be wrong. I think there's lots of different ways to stop being defensive. But I think especially in today's age as a zoomer and with the conversations going on right now, we think it's like really cool to identify it with opinions and beliefs. And we really get close like this is who I am, like pick whatever, whatever you want. This is who I am. Yeah. That's not terrible. That's not a terrible thing to do, depending on the belief or opinion. But what is terrible is when someone criticizes that belief or opinion, you take it eternally. Oh, they're attacking me. Maybe, you know, maybe they are, but they really have a problem with that belief because they want to have a problem with you until you vocalize that belief or opinion. So now their real issue is actually with your belief in your opinion, not you as a person. Because it was all sunshine and friendship until I vocalized this. You know what I mean? So I think that's more of identifying with the beliefs or opinion, which happens. It's natural. But I genuinely feel like we need to learn to separate from those things and see people attacking the idea and not your opinion. And I think that's what kind of fuels the growth that will help us grow and not shut down. Oh, they hate my podcast. political opinion. They hate my religious opinion. They hate my economic opinion. They think trickle economics works, and I think it doesn't. I'm going to shut down. Brother, you are not trickle down economics. Stand up. You have a spine. I know the good Lord gave you one. Stand up. Stand straight. Know what you believe. Know why you believe, and have a thoughtful conversation. If it's a time for a debate, it's a time for a debate. If it's not, you don't need to have... I mean, I talk about this in other episodes, but... Last thing I'll say, cause I can, I can feel a tangent coming. Not every, not everything. Oh, you believe in that? Why? Brother, I'm drinking fruit punch right now. Hawaiian punch. This is not a time for a debate. You know what I mean? Like different times, different places. Like I can tell you why, but I'm not going to sit here and have like 15 minute rebuttal. Like that's insane. You know what I mean? Like time places, but I hope that helps. But yeah, read everything what I just said. I think we identify with beliefs, opinions. People generally don't have a problem with you until you vocalize something they disagree with, and then they have a problem. What does that mean? That means they don't have a problem with you. They have a problem with that belief or opinion. And learn how to separate those, even if they are attacking you. And I really think that will give us the option to grow. So I hope that was helpful. I know I kind of went on a tangent there. If you want more information about this, if this question intrigued you, If you identify with this question, please go check out episode 156 or excuse me, 157. Let me tell you right now. Sorry. No, check out 156. Go check out episode 156. You're not like them. It's a really good like launching pad and to this question. And this question really revolves around that. So check out that episode if this intrigues you. Thank you for your question. Again, that was our boss segment. They come from my experience, what I've been seeing, what I've been hearing, conversations with people, how those conversations went, and people. People, people. I think you could summarize all that by saying it revolves around people. And I think with that episode, with that in mind, people are watching you. Yeah, and honestly, that's a really good thing. And here, where is this coming from? I'll share. As you guys know, I was diagnosed with MS about a month ago. A year and a half ago? Two years ago? Very open with it. God's good. I work out. I'm on medication. Praise God for modern medication. Because if I got MS in the 1950s, rest in peace. Like, it ain't happening. So I'm very grateful for modern medication. Very grateful for gyms and stuff like that. So anyways... I used to be a D1 collegiate football player. I stopped, went to school, decided football for a plethora of reasons, not for me. That was mainly due to health. That's a whole nother episode. But then I gained a lot of weight, to be honest, almost 100 pounds. And I... Got diagnosed with MS. That was really hard. I stopped working out for six months because I was like slurring my speech, blah, blah, blah. It wasn't good. Got medication. They diagnosed it. It's good. And then I looked in the mirror one day and I was like, man, I... And you might be able to relate to this. I don't know. Maybe, hopefully, if it does relate to you, W. If not, no big deal. I was like, oh, Kyle, what happened? I... I mean, I still got moves today, but there are not nearly is. And we'll talk about why that is. But I had like huge moves. I mean, we're talking like. We're talking like. Milkshake level moves, you know, and I'm talking about myself, so this is OK. I can say this about myself. We were talking like. Yeah, you know, I mean, like we're talking like. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about? And I had a big belly. And me personally, it wasn't anyone feeding it to my ear. It wasn't people telling me like, hey, you look bad. Actually, it was none of that. I never heard that. Thank God. Yeah. I don't know what that would do to my mental, but I never heard that. Um, and I thought to myself, man, you used to play football. It used to be like really strong toned. Um, you're always, I was, I've always been a little chunky. I'm okay with that. Um, but I was like really chunky and I told myself I'd never go over three 50 when I was in high school. Um, cause I've always been a bigger guy that doesn't bother me too much to be honest. Um, but I was too big. I was way too big. And I remember thinking like, I just got a mess working out helps, um, with MS. It's like, Your first medication is the infusion and stuff that I take every six months, which is a godsend. The second medicine right after right under that is working out because you're telling your nerves and your body and your muscles like this is. This is how we work. You don't tell me. I know my body's getting attacked by myself. It's an autoimmune disease. For those who don't know, it's like I tell my body what to do. You don't, you as in my body, my body, you don't tell me what to do. I tell you what to do, Kyle. And I had a conversation to my wife, like, hey, I'm not feeling about this. And I was looking at myself and I'm like, you're kind of sad. Oh, woe is me, MS. MS. Things like that. What was me? And that was super attractive. Not a good time in my life. Not a good time. Like literally whatsoever. And I decided to myself, you know, I'm going to go to I'm going to I'm going to get to 280. I'm going to go to the gym every day. I'm going to calorie deficit and I'm going to get the freaking thing. Like I'm not going to sit here and be sad for myself. I believe like a man can be emotional. I do believe men should cry. But like I need to be a rock for my family. And my future family, my wife, like I need it to be that. So anyways, all that. I know that was a long preface, but I started this weight loss journey. And my goal is 280. I started at 361 and currently I'm 322. So I won't make another video about this until I hit 280. Because I don't want to make another video. I'm not even at my goal yet. But this interaction really affected me. So I've been working out for a long time now. I really started focusing on weight loss. about a year, a few months. I'm doing the slow, like I don't need to be overnight, you know, super light, but I want to take my time with it. I'm in here for the long game. Here's, here's, here's my story. You guys know how I felt at 361, what made me want to start the journey. You know, you saw, I kind of saw the before moments I kind of shared, but I want to talk about like The struggles in an interaction that really propelled this episode. The kindness of people is a little bit of a spoiler. But there's obviously big struggles with trying to lose weight. There's progress, which is great. And I've talked about that on the podcast before. And what I have not talked about is a lot of the pain. I genuinely believe whatever you're going through, whether it be weight loss, MS, a medical diagnosis or what this podcast is about. having conversations with other people. It was all about going through pain, that initial pain. So for the listener who sent in that question, the pain of wanting to grow, the pain of not wanting to stay the same, that is painful. When we're talking about having new conversations with people, that is painful. Don't just open your, I know what I'm asking you to do with this podcast. Trust me, I know what I'm asking you. I'm asking you to open yourself up to get hurt. I trust I've had people say, do you really understand what the goal of your podcast is and what you're asking? I am crystal clear. I understand what I'm asking. I understand you need to go through the pain to get to the progress and the pain of having conversations. You have to start by opening yourself up, removing the identity from yourself, removing the belief and opinions from who you are. As we discussed earlier, they offer home with you. They have a problem with this idea and understanding what that difference is and making it small steps, you know, but overnight I'm ready to have all the conversations that is so unrealistic. It's not even funny, right? That's not the progress doesn't happen like that. Progress happens over time. So for in a different way for me with calories and all that stuff, I'm not going to bore you craving practically hungry all the time. Um, But what I really want to talk about is consistency and the mental battles of this. You have to be consistent. If you're going to the gym, great. Go to the gym. Sam Sulek, there's a really good, really good inverse relationship here I want to share. A long time ago, I saw something that said, you go to the gym one time, you're not a different person. You're just more tired. That's all. But if you go to the gym... 300 times, 1,000 times, 2,000. You're going to look completely different from the person you were when you went to your first workout versus the 3,000th workout. It stacks up. It builds up. And doing that consistently, if you go to the gym once every month, there's going to be no difference. You're not going to look any different, and that's all you do. But if you go consistently those 3,000 times, whoa, I'm talking to a whole different person than I was talking to you The first time you're on your 3000 time and you look way different than your first time. That's there's a lot of things to that, but it's mainly mental like, oh, I don't want to show up today. I don't want to do this. Doing that really counts. And that's what working out has taught me is taught me that consistency going. And I think about that quote a lot and I think it's really good. That's a mental battle, though. That's all entirely in your head. I got to do this. I got that motivation at 2 a.m., But it's like whatever, whatever time for the gym. And I don't got that same motivation. Go anyways. Open yourself up to me the same way we talk to people. Oh, man. I really opened myself up there to have a conversation about our beliefs. And the conversation went OK. But I'm Tucker and I'm not going to do that again for probably another three months to recover. You've lost the point, my friend. You've completely lost the plot. It has gone over your head. You don't even understand what you're trying to go for. And that everyone has a period like that. So I guess that's okay, but not really like you have lost. You have to mentally say, and this is so relate in today's conversation culture. This is more evident than ever. I know this, this sound may sound crazy connecting these two, but it's so relevant. It's kind of scary today. You have to open yours. Oh, they believe this. Why I should have that conversation about them. Um, Oh, Kyle just encouraged me. Thanks, Kyle. Oh, my other friends are saying they think I'm a little bit smarter. I ask for their questions. That stuff is important. Keep going. Even when you don't, you're going to grow. You have to go through pain to get to the progress. And really what kind of evolved, what brought this conversation of the kindness of strangers, saying nice things and saying like, oh, I have grown. When people grow, Come up to you. So I was at the gym. Here's the story. I know it took forever to get here. But here's the story that inspired this podcast. I was at the gym last. This is two weeks ago. I've had a lot of time to think about it. It's a very good thing. At least I perceive it as good. I was at the gym. It was a Friday. I was doing ab stuff and I was on my last set. And dude, I was drenched in sweat. I was cooked. I was like super tired. I ain't going to count you. I was super tired. I was excited to get it done, do my cardio and go home and go to Chili's that Friday or whatever. And this old dude, he was built. He's a good, he's like a strong looking old dude. I have no idea who he was. Haven't spoke to him. Not once in my life. He came up to me, tap me on the shoulder, you know, take off their ball, whatever. And I was, and he said, man, you look so good today. And I was still kind of like in my head. I was like, sorry, what was that? He was like, how much weight have you lost? And I was like, oh, thanks. I was like, yeah, I've lost about 40 or so pounds. And he said, he was like, look, you don't know who I am, but I see you Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. I see you every day. You work out every day. You give me hope for the young generation. You encourage me that the young people can still do this. Keep going because there's always someone watching and you have zero idea who it is. Shook my hand and left. Don't know his name. I haven't seen him since, to be honest. I mean, maybe we go a different time, but apparently he sees me every time. That was so good for me to hear. Now, I'm not saying this like. Please don't miss my words. I'm not saying this is like Kyle's the best. Kyle's so consistent, blah, blah, blah. There's people who are way more consistent than me, way more stronger than me, way more, you know, like there is those people. There's always someone better out there. So I don't think I'm the greatest thing since sliced cheese because there's people who are better than me and consistency, things like that. But the point was that words of kindness. What I've been really thinking about was like. He's been watching me, which is kind of weird. Not kind of weird, but it can come off as weird at first. Like, man, I don't even know who you are. I don't even know your name, but you see me come in every day and you see me working every day and I'd have no idea you even exist. Those are the things we need to strive for. There's two things I want us to take away from that. One, Be consistent. Do the hard things. Because people are going to notice. I don't care if it's going to the gym. Doing drawings. Having better relationships. Or having better conversations with people. Or being able to express yourself. Introvert or extrovert. Doesn't matter. Being able to articulate your words better. Whatever that looks like. Man, you've been really... I can tell you know what you're talking about. Man... I've seen the growth in you just talking to people. And to be honest with you, it's insane. I'm talking to you right now. I know you're kind of iffy. There's a lot of pain in opening yourself up. But I can really tell you're thinking more and you're asking better questions. And you're putting that judgment to the side. You just want to understand people. That doesn't come naturally. That doesn't come like this. And I snapped my fingers. I don't know if you heard. That doesn't come like instantly. That takes time. That's a skill. That's a muscle you have to work out. And I mean that. I can see that in you. I really do mean that. So one, be consistent. I don't care what playing a video game, trying to be the best of the video game. I really don't care what it is. But being consistent in that, especially what this podcast is about, talking to people, opening up to being able to articulate your words. That's important. And two, and this is also, we're all about community, positive thinking. Two, tell that to someone. And don't tell it to someone that's some BS. Don't tell it to someone just to say it. Don't tell it to someone just to be like, oh, yeah, you know, whatever. I'm just going to say this because it sounds super nice. Because the person would be like, what are you talking about? If you're saying something nice like that, I mean, you're noticing change and consistency to someone who is not doing anything, they're going to be like, what are you talking about? I'm not even trying. So they're not even going to appreciate it, one. And two, they're going to think you're a fool. Why are they telling me this? This has nothing to do with me. This has zero to do with me. Why are they telling me this? They're lying to me. Yeah, sure, they're trying to be nice, but they're lying. Don't do that. Don't. Don't tell people just to sound nice or feel good about yourself. Find that one person you genuinely are like, you don't tell them that. Tell them that. It's important. You want people to tell you that? We're a community about people who don't look, vote, eat, pray, believe the same. Tell them that. You know how powerful that is? Not only for you, but also the person, not only for the person receiving it, but for you to open up, put yourself down and say, hey, you're really killing it lately. And I'm actually getting inspired from you. Keep going. Tell two things we take away. One, be consistent. Again, I don't care what it is that you're being consistent with. Do it. Even if it's showering every day. Some people have struggled with that. We don't shame. Who cares? They're having to struggle with it, but they're being consistent. Amen. And then two, tell them, be sincere. Don't say, be sincere. Amen. Dude, I've really and you may be laughing because the example, but listen to what I'm saying. Oh, dude, you've been sharing more, bro. Big ups, man. I know that can be a struggle for you. You're killing it, bro. Keep it up. That's going to do so much for you and for the other person across from you. And when you mean it and when it's actually applicable, when it's actually applicable, you mean it. Man, it does so much for you, too. It did so much for me. I was happy. I felt way better about myself and knowing me, myself, Kyle, I am chasing after goals. I think that's clear. I have goals, both socially, professionally with the podcast, my weight, things like that. I have goals. But hearing it from someone else, that's a complete stranger. That's a stranger. I don't even know this guy's name as of recording this. I literally don't know it. Him telling me that. encouraged me. It strengthened me. You know what, Kyle? Keep on doing it. You weren't feeling motivated. Maybe now you are. You weren't feeling motivated, but you had discipline to show up. And look how that repays you. That's not going to work every time. That's not how it's going to happen every time. But it only needs to happen once for it to really strengthen what you believe in. And so that's, I don't want to get up for too long, but that's the big idea. That's why you want to keep doing it. Keep being consistent, even when it's hard, even when no one sees because someone does and you have no idea they do see it or eventually you will see whether this is in your job and your marriage and relationships with your boyfriend, girlfriend, family, friends and your spiritual walk. And if you're recovering from something, if you're healing from something in your personal growth, whatever that looks like for you, Keep going. Keep being consistent. Because someone is watching that you don't know. Or two, they'll eventually see it. They'll eventually catch on. Keep going. One, be consistent. Two, tell someone they're being consistent. That will do so much for them and for you. Tell them. Tell them. Be realistic. Tell the truth. But like, man, I'm really noticing, bro. Amen. Keep it up, bro. And also, spoiler, that's going to bless you. I'm sorry. I don't care if you're a Christian or not. That is going to bless you. It blesses them and will bless you. Final things I want to say. You're not working for the goal. Whatever the goal is. Job, marriage, workout, podcast, showering. You're not just going for that goal. You're going for the person that you'll eventually become when you get there. In whatever that looks like. So I need you to know two things. If you've heard nothing else I've said, I want you to hear these two things. I'm going to repeat it again. One, be consistent. Two, tell someone they're being consistent. Show genuineness. Appreciate them for what they're doing. And that will go so far for you and the person. So that's why I challenge you today. I challenge you this week to be consistent. And I challenge you, this is the big one, tell someone they're being consistent. Let them know maybe they're going to the gym quietly. Maybe they're studying quietly. Maybe they have some goal that you know about, that only you know about. Like, hey, man, I've really noticed you've been making progress. Be honest. If they're not making progress, don't tell them that. If they're not making progress, don't tell them. Don't lie. But if they aren't, tell them that. That's going to do so much for you guys. All in all, we're not promised easy. We're promised hard work that will show up. So let's do it together. Let's do it together. Yeah, I hope you enjoyed that. I just had that interaction at the gym and I really felt It applied to not only, you know, work, working out and things like that, but you're going for a goal. And whatever that goal is, I think it applied. I enjoyed it. It made me happy. It made me feel good, to be honest. I'm hearing that. So hopefully something clicked with you and you really enjoyed it. If you enjoyed this episode, please, please, please ask. I beg you. I beg you. Tell me what movie that's from. Leave a review. If you felt motivated, encouraged, or like... seen by this episode please go ahead and leave a review um and share this episode to send it directly to a friend um family member and then share the episode to twitter x instagram x or instagram i'm gonna tag me at kyle the horton um and let's get this conversation going let's get it let's invite more people who don't look vote believe eat um or pray the same let's get them in here let's have that conversation and encourage someone it's a it's an encouraging kind of week and So go encourage someone. I hope you guys enjoyed. Remember, one man died on the cross for your sins. And that man's name is Jesus. And he did that because he loves you so much. Hope you guys enjoy. I'll see you guys next time on Kyle Talks.

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Peace.